According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 40 million adults in the US alone are affected by anxiety, and millions more are afflicted by depression-related disorders.
Overall, they estimate 18% of all adults have some form of mental illness. And most of the rest of us have too much stress in our lives, especially during the prime productivity and child-rearing ages of 18-55.
Some folks suffer for very specific reasons—perhaps because of a brain lesion, a genetic mutation, specific episodes of trauma or an idiosyncratic chemical imbalance.
But many folks with diagnosable disorders simply suffer from more intense versions of the same things that almost everyone is suffering from. Some are just harder-hit than others because of their particular social circumstances, or because they are slightly more susceptible (a difference in degree, not in kind).
So why is there so much stress, anxiety, and depression these days?We will disclose a few of them
Diversity is a social trait that aspires greatness if combined with tolerance and understanding.Many problems that occur can be viewed from different angles and thus,produce a greater range of solutions that one individual could not achieve by themselves,thus being a fundamental aspect of our lives,but it comes at a cost.
Modern diversity also strains our brains—especially the diversity in values.
A person has a family,a group of friends and co-workers.Due to the wide range of different interests people form special interests groups,clubs and organisations that strive for one particular goal or interest
Perhaps our family is Catholic,our friends Protestants and our co-workers Taoists.
Perhaps our family likes to watch comedies,our friends romances and our co-workers horror movies.
Our families may like pop music,our friends heavy metal and our co-workers may like hip hop.
With such diversity we may find ourselves lacking common ground with most people at first glance,but despte this we must find a way to get along with people who have influence on our wellbeing,which is where tolerance comes into play.
People have a stake in whether we agree with them or not. They need to know what to expect from us, and whether we’re with them or against them. And we need to figure out when it’s necessary to be with them and when it’s OK to be against them in certain situations.
Sometimes we may come across intolerant or otherwise mean remarks from a person that is very dear to us or may hold a certain degree of influence on our lives.Instead of engaging in conflict,we should try to either see disscus the reasons behind their particular viewpoint or to gently swich the topic if we come across a barrier which some people form as to not have their opinions disected.
Just because you don’t understand it doasen’t mean it isn’t so
2.Comparing ourselves to others
The tendency which is often overshadowed by more “pressing”issues and is often nelected as such is the always present envy towards the achievement and wealth of others,often thinking that “they had it easy” or “they do not have to do anything and yet get everything,while i have nothing”.
The always present flaw can be summed up in a few words.
“Envy is ignorance.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
Very few people would argue for the positive influence of envy in our lives. In fact, most of us can quickly recognize its harmful effects:
- It fosters discontent and distress.
- It binds our freedom.
- It leads to resentment and bitterness.
- It causes us to do things we wouldn’t normally do.
- It can spiral into depression.
And yet, envy and jealousy continue to be present in our lives. It is a constant battle that wars against our heart and soul. We experience envy over other peoples’ appearance, talents, relationships, and bank accounts. It offers no positive contribution to our lives. Yet, it remains.
It is time to break free. Certainly, each of us desire to live in freedom from jealousy and envy. How then, can we overcome it?
Consider these helpful, life-changing steps to overcoming envy:
1. Shift your focus to the goodness in your life. One of the biggest reasons we envy the life of another is because we have begun to take our blessings for granted. Count them again. You are talented. You are gifted. You are cared for. You are unique.You have countless reasons to be grateful for the life you have been given. Remind yourself again.
2. Remind yourself that nobody has it all. Comparinfwith others is always a losing proposition. There will always appear to be people who have it better than you. But remember, we always compare the worst of what we know about ourselves to the best assumptions we make about others. Be reminded, nobody has it all. Each person you meet experiences problems, trials, and weaknesses–just like you. This is what makes us human. Nobody is exempt. Nobody has it all. Nobody.
3. Avoid people who habitually value the wrong things. If you spend all your time with people who compare the latest fashions, you are going to start desiring the latest fashions. If you spend all your time with people who talk about their salaries, their new cars, or their extravagant vacations, you are going to naturally fall into the inevitable trap of comparing your possessions to theirs. But there are far more important thingsto pursue. Remove yourself from the conversation (and the relationship if necessary).
4. Spend time with grateful people.Gratitude is highly contagious–that is why I spend time reading Tammy Strobel. You can read gratitude in almost every word she writes. Find grateful people who experience contentment in their lives and spend quality time with them. You can find them online or you can find them in person. But the more you invest your time with them, the more their spirit will become yours… and soon, others will desire what you have.
5. Understand that marketers routinely fan the flame. One of the most effective tools for advertisers in our culture is to foster jealousy and envy among us. After all, if they can cause us to recklessly desire the possessions of another, they can drive us to great lengths to acquire it for ourselves. Be on guard against their tactics. Recognize them. Avoid them. And refuse to succumb to their deception.
These are but a few examples of how to deal with these two major flaws which can have a devastating effect on both us and our loved ones.While they might be harmfull,support and love from our enviroment as well as a appreciation for ourselves and our potential is often the key to its constructive resolve